After over a month of binge watching Bates Motel on Netflix, I finished it last night.
I have been overwhelmed by this series.
I woke up this morning feeling genuinely sad that it is over and all of these fictional characters that I am about to write a blog on are not real.
Bates Motel reveals humanity in a brilliant way.
It is not predictable and the acting was professional.
Have you ever liked a character more and more that you wish you could be friends with him?
That is how I feel about Dylan.
His character grew on me.
He brings clarity to those around him even when they cannot see it themselves because he wants to protect them from harm.
Even after all the terrible things Norma and Norman did and said to him, he consistently gave them a hand when they were in trouble.
He was able to see the good in other people even when everyone else spoke poorly of them.
He did not simply go with the flow which seemed like an easier option most of the time, but instead he chose loyalty and critical thinking over rumours.
He reminds me that just because everyone else said someone is bad does not mean the person is truly bad, and just because everyone else said someone did something bad does not mean the person actually did something bad.
He chose to see things and people for himself and because of this, he was able to see something that nobody else was seeing.
It is always more difficult to see the good in someone when all you think about is the bad thing they did.
*When Dylan and his wife Emma were talking about Norman*
Emma: “He was so sweet when I met him.”
Dylan: “Norman is sweet. He is just out of his mind.”
Note that Emma used the word “was” there. She no longer sees Norman as a sweet person, but Dylan still does.
He sees how Norman’s dissociative identity disorder (DID) affected his life and how he turned into a completely different person, but he also sees Norman’s true self when he is not experiencing dissociation: the loving, polite and caring young man.
Another character that stood out to me was Chick.
I did not like him that much at first, but his character also touched me.
His desire to seek revenge on Caleb gradually dissolved with longer exposure to the Bates Motel family.
He started feeling for them after realising what had happened to the family.
In one particular scene when Chick made Norma a new window, but Norma was screaming at Chick off the top of her lungs as she thought he was coming back to ruin her life, he simply gave her a kiss on her cheeks and whispered “enjoy your new window.”
He also told Romero this, “I recognised in Norman that he had the soul of an artist” when all Romero thought of Norman was “crazy.”
After Caleb died, Chick put his body in a wooden boat and decorated nicely with flowers before sending him off even though Caleb nearly beat him to death once.
Another character with a gold heart was Emma.
She understands that bad things happen beyond anyone’s control and she does not blame other people for them.
She was always telling other people, “It is okay. It is not your fault.”
One thing they all have in common is this:
They consistently showed kindness to those who did not deserve their mercy, especially Dylan.
He is loyal, truthful, kind, wise, calm, thoughtful and courageous.
One of my favourite quotes from the series was also spoken by Dylan,
“I feel terrible and relieved. And I feel terrible that I am relieved.”
It reminds me of this unique aspect of human beings: conflicted self.
Bad things happen all the time, and most of them are out of our control.
If next time you find yourself feeling bad because you wish you could change something you cannot, it is because you have a humanely human heart.