Stay true to self

I have started to accept that I am just not a very sociable person, and that is okay.

Today I saw a friend and we talked over coffee for a few hours.

I decided I would not see anyone tomorrow.

I cannot schedule lots of social events. I tend to feel drained if I do.

If I spend a long time talking with someone, I like to be alone afterwards before I see another friend again.

I hope friends who get to know me better will understand this and would not take it personal when I turn them down.

It is important to be honest with yourself.

It does not matter what other people do or prefer.

I used to try and be as sociable as I can because I did not want to feel left out when everyone else was having fun.

I definitely met more people but it was not possible to stay in touch with all of them.

I feel less stressed and more in control of my pace now.

Your words are dead

Forget all the values you promote

Forget the advert you used minorities

On purpose

If you cannot bother to include them

In your mundane conversations

In your social gatherings

How can you claim you care

Let alone love

Nothing did, does, will change

Your irony is alive and well

Your words are dead to me

Still

 

I wrote this poem about my frustration with the society.

It upsets me to hear another person sharing this experience with me.

I have been there myself so I know what it is like to be left feeling “the outsider.”

Nothing seems to change.

The government and our society are good at creating slogans to persuade us that they want unity and they celebrate diversity.

But in reality, it is easier to make themselves look good than to examine and confront their internal biases and change their own behaviours.

I am inspired by this article The challenges of making friends from other racial groups

If you truly want change, start from yourself.

Invite a colleague of different race to lunch.

Talk to a minority classmate who appears on their own.

Actions are more contagious than words.

 

 

Less is more

Some of my daily skincare products.

I just ordered Foreo UFO smart mask. Let’s see how that goes.

There seems to be a trend of wearing heavy makeup in England. When I go home to Taiwan, I find most people wearing minimal makeup. But when I come back here, it’s the opposite.

I am trying to actively improve my skin so I can start wearing less and less makeup. I don’t like the idea of having to wear lots of makeup. There are so many videos out there that show full makeup tutorials. But ultimately if we improve our skin, we will no longer have to put that much makeup on.

It’s important to realise the money and habit you invest in skincare will benefit you in the long run – not only will you spend less money on makeup, you will save time by putting less makeup on. It’s a win-win.